What to Do When You’re Tired of Being the Bigger Person | Maven Mindset

We all have times where we get into arguments with those that we love. If you’re like me, you have often found yourself in the position where you have to be the bigger person in the situation. But what do you do when you’re the one who always has to be the responsible adult? The one who lets it go. When you don’t want to shrink on your beliefs or feelings for the sake of a peaceful night, because you resent never being able to just speak your mind without ridicule. When you feel like you’re forfeiting your dignity and intelligence to suffer in silence. When you’re angry because that one person is just not listening to you, here is how you can hold sacred space for yourself.

Lumina Tarot (Inner Hue)


The World

Connect with your guides and angels in meditation. What qualities does this person have that are bothering you so deeply and why? Try to form a deeper sense of understanding. Ask your guides to help you with this. If this is a family issue, ask your Ancestors to come in to help clear up any karma and to begin ancestral or bloodline healing. Extend love and forgiveness to the person. It’s not as much for them as it is for you so that you’re not allowing bitterness and resentment to take over your energy and harden your heart. Oh ya, and of course send them love and light like the high vibe lightworker you are!

The Devil

Avoid addictive behaviors resulting from an ‘F – it’ attitude. You won’t hurt them by doing this, the only person you’ll really be hurting is yourself. Resist the urge to lash out. Don’t leave them lying in the dust after you stampede. Don’t trample what is already a probably a very fragile ego. Yes, it may feel good in the moment to take out your agressions, frustrations, and disappointments on this person, however it doesn’t heal the situation. Remember that it’s their lesson too. It’s not your problem if they’re not ready to learn it.

Two of Cups

Talk with others about the situation. Find common ground with the offender, but don’t be afraid of setting boundaries! Remember the good qualities they have however, don’t romanticize them or the situation. Protect yourself. Why keep giving to a person who is not willing or open to receive? Don’t cry over spilled milk whether it’s wasted time or energy. Pick up your cup, wash it clean of their bs, and take it with you as you meet others who believe in kindness, compassion, and an even exchange of energy. Refill your cup with love, understanding, and appreciation.

Justice

Trust that the Universe will handle it. Karma will level the scales. Do not be unfair or unjust to this person even though the human part of you wants to snub them like they’ve snubbed you. Don’t worry about wanting them to hurt as much as they’ve hurt you. Get rid of that low vibrational thinking. Take the high road!  The Universe has already laid a plan. This situation, this person, has come into your life to teach you a lesson. Perhaps it may even be a karmic relationship if this type of thing happens repeatedly or if you notice a pattern. How can you break the cycle?

Hope this helps you keep your power when you feel like someone you love is trying to take it away.

xo Ariel

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